What to get your sweetie this year? The “tried and true” cliché Valentine’s gifts, sold in vast quantities at virtually every store in your area, may or may not be in the right “language.” If you have done any level of relationship research, I’m sure you understand the principle of love languages. Bearing that in mind, let’s discuss gift possibilities for each one. If your loved one’s language is…
Acts of Service: I know what I would want! Someone to organize my office clutter, and discard unnecessary equipment and records, and make everything look designer-perfect when they were finished. In fact they could even do my taxes (light bulb! Great gift idea!) while they were at it.
Gifts: This one is rather easy, since you have millions of advertisers offering you options. Then again… not so much. Some people are comfortable declaring their wishlist, while others want to be surprised. If nothing else, maybe you can sneakily look at e-bay’s recently viewed items. This one is always a risk; but a gift receipt can be very handy.
Words of Affirmation: We know it is good to confront privately, and praise publicly. So, why not create a one-of-a-kind engraving dedicated to the attributes of the one you love? Present the gift however you like, then hang it in a prominent location for all to see.
Physical Touch: You may opt for a professional massage. Or, if you are feeling brave (in matters of the heart, everything requires bravery!) create a spa experience at home, complete with a footspa, bath salts, massage oils, and maybe even a haircut (this last item is optional and definitely requires both skill and consent from the recipient).
Quality Time: This last one should really be included in your gift, regardless of which language is strongest. We have heard it said, “buy experiences, not objects.” I believe this is true; the moments spent with your loved one are worth more than all the boxes of chocolates, bouquets of red roses, and electronic gadgets in the world.
What would be unexpectedly meaningful to your sweetheart? Here are a few:
- Season tickets to the Timberwolves.
- Candlelit dinners prepared by Yours Truly.
- Couples massage.
- A family or couples portrait session with a professional or aspiring photographer.
- Outdoor weekend; hunting, fishing, hiking, camping, etc.
- Art appreciation; visit a museum, art gallery, dinner theater, collector car show, martial arts competition, and so on.
- Theme date, such as Iron Chef (except both of you are the chefs, creating masterpieces in the kitchen. If you have kids, they can be the judges); ballroom dancing; or pretend to be medieval hobos for the weekend, and camp out sans internet, phones, and electricity, wearing period costumes. Whatever strikes your fancy. I will not judge.
- *One thing I don’t recommend for quality time is a movie date, as this one is usually an impersonal form of relaxation, rather than a bonding experience.
If you need clarification on what your love languages are, I highly recommend finding out by reading the book and taking the quiz, available at http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/
I trust you will choose an absolutely smashing gift. And regardless of the gift awarded to you, bear in mind (if it wasn’t what you had in mind!) the giver may be confused as to your love language! If that is the case, reading the book is can be good date material in itself. Cliché or not, it is the thought that counts.
So, my dear readers, be blessed, and have a fabulous Valentines day.