I have 5 weeks to go before the due date of our 3rd daughter. I feel so high-maintenance sometimes I want to scream. (If I follow that instinct, however, my kids will join me, and then I’ll be really upset.) Take the way I sleep, for example. 4-5 pillows!? And I still can’t find a comfortable position. Standing and sitting are no better. The only time I feel good is when I dance, which only lasts as long as I can keep my heart rate low enough. And my emotions! They are about the same as they have been for the last 35 weeks, plus some. How does a mom stay emotionally consistent with her kids when she is not herself?
Enough of my drama. You know the feeling of being overwhelmed! Most likely, you are not pregnant. Some of you are not mothers. But we all know that when we feel overwhelmed, we are still required to act in a Godly way.
How to cope? I say, take inventory of what consumes your energy (physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc.) and simplify. A few examples:
- I vow that for the next 5 weeks, I will worry less about feeding my family the perfect diet. If my 4-year-old wants to make us peanut butter crackers for lunch (rather than my usual combination of the food groups and probiotics) then let her go to town–and give her a tip for her money jar! That way she’ll do it again. One less thing for me to think about = more time for me to gather my senses and control my emotions.
- I will stress less about not overdoing it on the movies, just for now. I am tired! Yes, the kids will probably be even more crabby after watching their 3rd movie this week, but at least I get to take a nap. A cheerful mom is more important than cheerful kids. Kids depend on mom’s state to shape their attitudes for the day, not vice-versa.
- Makeup–what?! Who? Did someone say I have to look a certain way? I will pay just enough attention to my appearance to feel good about myself, and respectful to others (e.g. my husband!) After all, 20 minute smoky eyes and blowout hair really is passé.
I will take a break from striving so much.
When 5 weeks is over I will decide if I care to resume my normal standards. In the meantime, it is so much more important to simplify in order to conserve energy for what is really important.
Blessings, cheers, and hugs (It is Hug Day!)